Process, both to do an honest and kind person, not a sign of weakness of people do. treacherous cunning man can share the moment cheap, but with the heart of harm is difficult to accomplish something great cause. college students indicators for joining the party, named scholarships, research opportunities for security when there are always some people through dishonorable means for their own interests. Although by some improper means to get a target to join the party was a few hundred dollars or more scholarships However, the cost for this might be far higher than the benefits derived.
a class of three sub-indicators of student loans down the banks, the family suddenly a little difficult for the students rallied together and fight it, many people have written the application, each application are three poorest students get the loans. At this time, a student of life compared to the hospital Zhao Petty ran a trip to the office, bank loans, even to turn his head to go. pushed down the gold course,UGGs, a student stomach upset, he was called out and said: Zhao students in Changsha, a company doing business promotion, after months of tireless efforts he has finally reached a business with a company intent, as long as a signed contract, he can get nearly million in royalty. And on the eve of signing the contract, Zhao students in this client company and the gold bump into a classmate. the original payment to the students just go to work at this company. King students are not fuel-efficient lights, and he effortlessly let go down the drain all the efforts of the students Zhao had. Let us not make any payment behavior of the students evaluation of the experience of the students alone for Zhao, can say only himself to blame, his former integrity, but integrity does not mean being trampled upon. having a father wrote a poem to give his newborn son, so one of them: Life is really cruel, interpersonal process is likely to be victims at any time. So, everyone must learn to protect themselves. Students are relatively simple, so more vulnerable to fraud. profiteers are trying to play a lot of college students idea, many universities also become beggars, a good basis for dealing with interpersonal relationships, but also to ensure the quality of key relationships. In addition, interpersonal skills are particularly important. Some people do good things will make people appreciate life, and some effort to help others might not please, not only without gratitude and reward, but also make people feel jealous. will be the same product at the same price to sell to the same customer, some sales may be violently thrown out, some clerk might sign large single, or even VIP treatment by customers.
interpersonal skills is a very vast and complex topic, confined space, where the combination of my personal experience can only do some simple lists, the omissions are inevitable.
1. more encouragement and praise to others, try to avoid criticizing, blaming and complaining, do not force others admit.
2. to learn to listen. Do not talk too much, try to let other people say.
3. If you want to join other people's conversations, first find out what others are saying.
4. as far as possible before talking to remain neutral and objective. indicate their tendency to figure out the other side before the first real tendency.
5. attention to each other social habits and proper to be imitated.
6. Do not interrupt, correct, add other people's conversations.
7. others are in trouble, take the initiative to help support and encourage.
8. not because someone is family and friends friends and not pay attention to etiquette.
9. as much as possible about other people want, to teach him how to get what he wanted.
10. always treat people with a smile.
11. to be a sense of humor person. But when the jokes do not put myself laugh.
12. to make a man out of bad taste.
13. like when people talk at each other's eyes as far as possible, whether you are said or heard.
14. to change the subject to try-they're starting.
15. to learn to listen to each other between the lines. must learn to tactfully by implication means to express themselves.
16. to visit others to to prior notice.
17. Do not be busy with other work or rest time to call in the past. unless it is a very urgent matter.
18. to someone else called, to ask whether the other side to facilitate the call. < br> 19. one thing to know that two people are no longer a secret.
20. you're ill of any person behind all that sooner or later pass in the human ear.
21. Do not say sarcastic words.
22. remember the names of others. to develop an occasional look at Ming Pianbu, phone book habit.
23. try to contact with the people you hate.
24. we must respect each other's privacy , friend or husband and wife.
25. a lot of people together, when you talk to someone with one, please do not ignore the existence of other people.
26. to dare to admit.
27. to gesture of humility to face everyone around.
28. to give sympathy and understanding of others.
29. to the extent possible, a commitment. commitment to do things must be as much as possible.
speak, we can reduce the struggle three decades
interpersonal skills is composed of many aspects, and in these respects among the most eloquent important one. eloquence is a set of logical systems, not simply playing lip service so superficial, is to see if you can think quickly and clearly to contemplate the image into language. will observe the same time human, that You have probably at the right time, right place, and the right of the people speak properly, this is eloquence.
heard so many people saying: marry a rich wife, can reduce the struggle II years. And in my opinion, will speak, allows you to reduce the fighting three decades. Not everyone can marry a rich wife, and the soft rice is often not so good, but it is the ability to speak any people can grasp, and absolutely no side effects. not even tired of people talking like a cow or a blank stare, and will be the speaker angles and bend even curse, others might have to wait for Thanksgiving Tiling favors.
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skills, if started to talk, I am afraid it is difficult to write a book specifically say thorough. so only a brief outline briefly the most important points.
established and trustworthy image, this way, a network of competition can produce the key to a positive cycle. If a man said, each time playing seven discount for each purchase, then more contacts only bring more negative effects of Bale.
Caoqi Tai, for us to that may be a strange name. He was born in Taiwan in 1963, graduated from Fu Jen Catholic University Department of Philosophy. Caoqi Tai Chang Hsiao-yen was the work of the celebrated more than a year, the brand name of Taiwan's two major television host, and boarded the auspices of the Taiwan Large party top spot In 1994, Cao Qitai into a business catastrophe, costing him one hundred and sixty million. in order to repay the debt, he worked hard, while also using a variety of friendships everywhere to borrow money. Then went to Singapore start their own business, presided over After all in solving the debt problem, the Caoqi Tai wrote his third book: Church one hundred and sixty million class learned the truth. including a passage about his finally agreed to lend you 10 yuan, you will also he the next day 5 yuan, that your good faith, and another 5 yuan you can not anxious. for the miser who would like to take five to mouth by 100, they are often is to give you five, and said no further, but you must also, and next day he was 10 also, still on the interest. he would especially guilty, the next 20 you borrowed from him, he would by 100 to give you, and asked: Why do not credit a relationship with me then? finally one day you mouth to him: by 50, he will look down on you. My name is my credit.
It was with this doubt, Cao Qitai has a very rich network of resources, which has a network of resources is based on his integrity.
be used to increase the value of their
true. karma is their own. he is half and half, where they come from friends? mutual benefit, rather than unilateral lobbying. When you find someone to be of value to you the initiative and its relationship, he still would consider him if you also have to use value. If he found you just an empty belly idiot, even if you kept to face to get his hot ass attached to his cold, he could not see you again. If the party secretary fraternizing with you, you can not find the school to worry about work right? However, even if you long-awaited entrance of the compound in the provincial party committee, people do not give you a glass of water. But if one day you are the best hospitals in the city in the province cook the president, party secretary would probably have to take the initiative to come to you. Therefore, in order to expand their network, has become the first people to make their own contacts in the capital.
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the five ways to improve
eloquence eloquence's five ways to improve the sales director
experience illustrates one thing: thick plot to thin hair. The eloquence of the students want to have first-class, the mouth before you speak or the first sitting quietly-read library book. Otherwise, even if your eloquence as powerful with my classmates after graduation, said he was not allowed to also takes a look at the same time trying out the book. its to that Braving heavy work when the pressure again to read a book, now go quiet as a library or school buildings. Niyong Xiao, when dying, said: to the academic buildings and libraries, even after graduation to repay it sooner or later.
eloquence have to exercise much as possible to their own statement in a formal setting. The reason why stress is a formal occasion, because the mahjong table the birth of language can not master. class must have the courage to speak their own language for the expression of this ability is very helpful. freshman class to a student when we stand up and speak to a red in the face, and spit the word unclear, talk is not coherent. but he insisted that their own in the classroom to speak to the junior year he has been able to be fluent in the expression of their views.
classroom time should make an effort to speak to make their speeches, clear structure, and strive to impromptu speech to his own record is a little argumentative rigorous thinking. I had in mind before speaking quickly as possible to prepare an outline, when the first show to speak their views, and then clear that he will be 3 one or five areas to start on. the first time will do a bit difficult, but if we continue down will gradually become a habit. work after the meeting, I have also maintained this style, the total can or two Three to their views very clear statement, and not like other colleagues as she spoke with do not know what to say.
also attend some lectures, activities like the debate is also very useful. I remember I started this time to participate in the school speech contest is stage fright, quickly turn my legs when I took office, continuing to tremble. and later participated in several such activities, I no longer stage fright. high school student election Chairman, I have been able to very comfortable and answered all question from the lecture, and later participated in large lectures, debates and other events when the audience more, I became more calm and composed, play to the more impressive. So I feel that to participate in this game is very necessary. award certificates you must have forgotten after many years or even been lost, but trained through this race and eloquence enough to make you a lifetime.
as certain social skills training student leaders and eloquence is a favorable way. 九品芝麻官 both classes of eight or ask Xunan school students are living in between school authorities and the general students. the one hand, keep up school leaders, counselors to deal with, the other hand, the identity of the student leaders to deal with the students, but also properly handle the relationship with other student leaders. in order to navigate in those networks, there is no good social skills is absolutely impossible. However, considering the At present, many universities . Shengrong Shenzhen University, was originally painted a very dull person, talk to strangers, when a very timid, but to use a simple mean to express a long time. junior year, she served as a cosmetics company part-time salesman. In the process of selling cosmetics, she encountered many difficulties, she said a lot often, what others think she sent out word. Tu Sheng Rong aware of the need to address these issues, not only to persuade others to use patience and sincerity, but also need to improve his eloquence. She read a lot of social skills on the improvement of eloquence and articles, one by one and then those theories into practice. Gradually, Tu Sheng Rong has learned to face different customers use different communication strategies, and with short Short a few words let people interested in her products.
eloquence are not born, so the need to exercise, and fully able to exercise. a man is honest, worked hard after a few words that will allow customers to pay with pay, What you can not do it?
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pulse competitive division in today's society more and more sophisticated times, the ability of each person are often limited to one, or a few limited areas. A quick thinking may be sparse glib lawyers on operational capacity, a good entrepreneur may not understand finance management skills, a skilled expert traders may lack the business of thinking, an ability to outstanding civil servants may not adept at dealing with interpersonal relationships hh limited to a certain extent this breakthrough, But not completely break. no one can become an all-powerful Superman. Therefore, we must learn to use other people's ability to place their own lack of ability to be able to be compensated for someone else.
make a simple example, it . If two people were abandoned in a desert island, the first person to get good food from nature, such as fishing, hunting, and the second person good at creating wooden boat. as long as they can be together side by side, the first person to catch the second person to share his food, then take the second person to leave the island-made boats, they are able to survive. In this case, the second is equivalent to have the ability to find food, the first individuals equivalent to have a manufacturing capacity of the boat.
So, how much each of us has a capacity of not just say that this person can do alone what a place to stay, but also what he can do by others. As long as the ability of others can he used, that it is his ability. and this is very similar point is, when we say how much money a person, not just how much money that he owned the ownership should also include how much money he owned the right to use. Even if no money of his own, as long as he can take a lot of money, we must admit that he is a rich man.
so, whether the ability to let other people for their own use, it has become a critical to the ability of species. and we get people to complement our own weaknesses, director of the premise that we need to recognize that power has its own people, that is, to have sufficient network resources. network of people, by definition , referring to the interpersonal context, it means relationships. human resources are often rich friends all over the world, need to see a doctor when a doctor friend, need to have when dealing with government bureaucracy of friends, you need to When do the business of an industry which has the industry's friend. such a person to start things out naturally like a duck it both ways.
Harvard interpersonal skills to understand the achievements of a person's role, was for Bell experiments Room (Bell Lab) researchers conducted a survey top. They found that everyone agreed were outstanding talents, expertise is often not the key, the key is time may be helpful to cultivate a good relationship, in the face of problems or crisis would easily saved the day their own knowledge, 87.5% from personal connections. Taiwan's 1111 Job Bank spokesman Wu Rui Ying, Vice President, said the workplace is the last pulse to be more important than strength, if the the first 10 years of professional training should focus on. Young people at this time, do not need to deliberately focus on building relationships spend, but to use every opportunity to do things well, with established contacts. The second 10 is a professional and personal connections in both the stage. At this time, in addition to work by establishing a network of contacts, you can develop a personal social circle. In the last 10 years of career, personal connections will be better than professional, as professional some will help you complete your subordinates and your personal connections that is the appreciation for these professional areas. saying is the truth.
recent college graduate who is relying on hard-working, dedicated, willing to be exploited in order to be discouraged, and has a chance to do a little bigger, but after a few years of work still to be respected if by no means 20-year-old being able to feather boy like that stay up late to work overtime, or drink a couple of pounds of white wine to accompany people, not because he was a person when two people can use, but because he has been established through work and circle of contacts . each person's fitness will decline, the knowledge will be out of date, the only growth is a network of contacts.
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Channel
increase their exposure to their marketing channels
to others, to seize every opportunity to create their own image. Do not underestimate these opportunities, this is to enhance the competitiveness of an important network of people magic.
Joe. Gillard is the Guinness Book of World car sales champion, and he distributed a million copies every month card, whether you have his business card or not, and regardless you still have a two, three. When he went to steak steak the waiter would end a business card, when the bus will give each person on board a business card, business card at the time of Joe. Gillard always tell people: good! My name is Joe. Girard, I sell Chevrolet cars. More and more, Joe. Gilad more and more customers. He was with another sales representative for the same price selling the same car, someone else wants to come no one is interested, and to his people but also in advance to buy a car Book two and a half.
in Joe. Gillard car sales to become the world championship, he bought a car to people who do not feel two and a half in advance is a difficult task order, but rather pointing to his car show off to others: my car is extraordinary.
Joe. Girard, 74 years old at the time to do a speech in Taiwan. speech before the start of almost every audience came to hear the speech received a few good Joe . Girard card. wait for Joe. Gillard came to power, he asked: I have five! under the audience, soon will spill out of the 3000 card. we put away the card one by one after the speech that will soon go to the subject, and did not expect Joe. Gillard even said: The secret of success. speech ended! IBM services in the United States had to fight for the opportunity to meet with the boss, the boss on the toilet every day observation time, and then choose the same time with the boss, go to the bathroom, in order to increase interaction and communication with the boss, a long time, boss, had been appreciated and esteem.
devoted brother home a piece of farm fields to grow rice at his request, do not use any chemical fertilizers, nor any pesticide spraying, although the sharp decline in production, but for Zhu Huaijing is that like a few pounds of rice a few pounds of gold generally valuable. Zhu Huaijing carrying the bag of rice to Pittard made it clear that the bags home and find the real Director of the Office pigs fly!
I had a colleague also has the same purpose. his order to the company's SMS and WAP mobile access products in Guangxi, trying to figure the real power of Guangxi Mobile to emotional investment. may be the Region Manager, and did not go to visit, and no person who moved the company any money in bribes. Before last Nanning, the regional body's manager in Shenzhen, the first suburbs of Nanning by phone around to find some of the situations: where the most scenic beautiful, what is the safest place, where permitted fire, where the traffic is convenient hh hit the phone all morning, he finally established a satisfactory and clear the place where transport routes. The regional manager Choose the weekend to fly to Nanning. He borrowed a friend's car, someone will be the central figure in Guangxi Mobile and their families to the pre-selected all of the place, and then let everyone enjoy a truly enjoyable picnic BBQ . On the following Monday, we all declare all of the products the company successfully access the.
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Blessed
is more blessed to give than to receive such a description
Gao Yang Hu: time as an apprentice in banks. partly because of poor birth, Hu was brought up to understand: Things to rely on friends, helping others is helping ourselves. Hu 20-year-old was met by an impoverished scholar named Wang Ling. The scholar very talented, but also very ambitious, have the opportunity to become an official, but lack the money for the journey to Beijing and the official's a gift of 500 taels of silver age of Wang. In this way, although he lost their jobs, and it paved a bright future for themselves.'re a government official after the king has a sense of the End Age, them as Damon and Pythias. got the upper hand by Hu also Wang Ling developed in official circles on the creation of the banks, pawn shops, pharmacy, management silk, tea, and thus rapid riches.
former U.S. president George Bush is the president not only themselves, but younger son is governor of Florida, the eldest son is two American presidents. Reagan, Bush and his son neither handsome, nor Roosevelt's luck, not Clinton's popularity in the United States and even parents to encourage their children: be president, what you can not do it? know how to operate a network of people, he will put the day before going to bed every day contact person's name and the conversation go over. At the same time, Bush believes the most important way to establish relationships is to sincerely care about others. One time he went to Minnesota speech, a Chamber of Commerce, chairman of the 350 seats. After the speech, the chairman and the president a lot of photo, including one chairman and president, said he hoped the president and the Congress passed the speech through a number of motions, so that they can be developed that small organizations . Two years later, Bush returned to Minnesota, to call in the presidential suite chairman who, two years ago, said he passed through his influence a number of programs, I do not know whether to help your company. phone over there Chairman moved to a mess of course. I think when Bush ran for president he may have wished to draw people in America voted for George W. Bush, right.
contacts
business and integration needs to be emphasized is this: There is no nodding acquaintance with the sincerity of zero. is the need to operate a network of contacts, but also the accumulation and precipitation take a long time, not to exchange business cards to be regarded as a network of people. Many people in the importance of a network of competitiveness is not deep cognitive, usually do not want to spend time on it, often to a critical moment to realize their own little network of people assets.
my freshman year and they had received a letter from the old school. that students From the first day to the same class in High School has always been with me, departmental system after that we often play together. He was admitted to the Hunan Medical University Entrance Examination, with me in the same city, and later the school after the merger was kind enough to me to be the university's alumni. However, his letter that letter I have not returned. At first, because no time, then even forgotten.
after graduation the students stay in school, the First Affiliated Hospital, although the school's affiliated hospitals, but that is definitely one of the best hospitals in the country. Last year, I want to go to that hospital treatment of a relative and asked if I have an acquaintance in the hospital. I thought for a while to remember that six years ago, written to my students. If I gave him a letter back, if then we have to keep in touch, I am sure can be very clear conscience, give him a call and let him take care of my relatives who went to treatment, but I could not find his contact . even with his phone, I am also not easy to find him help out. If you have the cheek to look for him, he could not help me in this busy bar.
contacts need to operate, but need to know how to use. Since contacts is a resource, we must be good at integrating such resources. The process is to integrate resources from a network of resources into real resources for a potential process. This requires regular combing their network of their own circles of communication people have more in-depth understanding and know what everyone has his own value. As a result, limited in their ability to get help when needed, will know whom to turn. some friends all over the world, But when they have a difficult time but do not want to meet friends, or do not know where to find a friend, this is the case, friends forever just a friend, can not become the cause of their own network of resources useful.
American social psychology sociologist Milgram (Stanley Milgram) 60 years in the 20th century made the famous four people, no matter in which country the other side, is a type of race, what kind of color. no surprise, between you and George W. Bush or Osama bin Laden and only four, and six that make up this wonderful second person in the chain, was actually you know, maybe your parents, maybe your high school, more likely to live in your apartment building to clean the corridor's aunt hh think about it, an aunt through this network of people that actually allows you to linked to Bush, this is not it wonderful?
network of people like an eight-foot octopus, octopus, each eight feet every minute of each day are kept in the collection, staggered forward, but we often do not own knew, do not care, so often and elegant passing. Do not just look at a network of contacts in the dignitary while ignoring other more ordinary people. at the appropriate time, any ordinary person can turn things around and become your Large elegant!
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Sri Lanka sword
the rapid popularization of the Internet has greatly changed the lifestyle of human society as well as ways of thinking. It is people's learning, work and daily life provides a great convenience, so difficult to complete many of the original things that can not be completed even easily by the mouse. Meanwhile, it also created a myth after another business, entrepreneurship and wealth given for the new era of content. , Mogan not from, Heaven could not, rival? not withhold the double-edged sword, it is both the Heavenly Sword, very sharp, but also in people's heads hanging sword of Damocles. 4th century BC, the Italian island of Sicily, the courtier named Damocles . he please the king Dionysius I, said the king queen fiscal situation, Hongfu luck. Dionysius want a glimpse of Damocles when the king's taste, so the feast was held, so that the king sat Damocles throne, with a horsehair hitch a sharp sword hanging above his head, and told of: the happiness of rulers is usually associated with readily available to the impending massacre ...
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